I never thought I would tell anyone about this. It was, after all, a chick flick.

I was home alone when I got the call from my son-in-law that our granddaughter had just been born. She had Downs syndrome. I was stunned. Of course, I worried a bit about labor and delivery, for my daughter and the baby, but never, ever did I think of Downs syndrome.

And there was nothing I could do. We live a thousand miles away. My ticket was purchased to fly out for a post-delivery visit the following week. I could not go to the hospital, I could not change the number of chromosomes in my new grandchild’s DNA, and at that point I couldn’t even talk to my daughter. I was out of control. Perhaps more than I had ever been in my life. I phoned my husband, who was out of town. I called family members and a few close friends. I prayed. But, now what? What was I supposed to do now? It turned out, nothing.

I called for the dog, and curled up on the sofa to watch Maid in Manhattan. Picking up the remote control, I wondered what in the world I was doing. It seemed so crass, perhaps even sacrilegious. How could I be watching a chick flick when my daughter and her family were adjusting to this news? The question shouted out at me as I pushed “Play.”



Then I heard the whisper of the Spirit. “You can’t do anything. I am with them. I am their God. Leave this to me. Enjoy the movie.”

Watching a chick flick became for me, that night, a way of letting go, almost a symbol of letting go of my need to control, understand, and fix. I was resting in God’s care, not so much for me as for my daughter and her family. I could pray, but I could not fix. The creator God was, and would be, present and loving my daughter, my son-in-law and their new baby.

That was over six years ago. Our granddaughter Eden is a sweet, charming little girl. I still, daily, trust God with the care of my children and my grandchildren. I don’t remember much about the movie I saw the night Eden was born, but I do remember that letting go, and letting God love me and love those I love is a very blessed experience.

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Alice Fryling:
frylingAlice Fryling is a spiritual director and author. Her most recent book is Seeking God Together: An Introduction to Group Spiritual Direction. She teaches Enneagram workshops in the Chicago area with her colleague Jessie Vicha. Alice and her husband Bob have two grown daughters and four grandchildren.
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