Let Go And Enjoy The Movie
By |   June 10, 2011 |   in Blog, Movies |   3 Comments

I never thought I would tell anyone about this. It was, after all, a chick flick.

I was home alone when I got the call from my son-in-law that our granddaughter had just been born. She had Downs syndrome. I was stunned. Of course, I worried a bit about labor and delivery, for my daughter and the baby, but never, ever did I think of Downs syndrome.

And there was nothing I could do. We live a thousand miles away. My ticket was purchased to fly out for a post-delivery visit the following week. I could not go to the hospital, I could not change the number of chromosomes in my new grandchild’s DNA, and at that point I couldn’t even talk to my daughter. I was out of control. Perhaps more than I had ever been in my life. I phoned my husband, who was out of town. I called family members and a few close friends. I prayed. But, now what? What was I supposed to do now? It turned out, nothing.

I called for the dog, and curled up on the sofa to watch Maid in Manhattan. Picking up the remote control, I wondered what in the world I was doing. It seemed so crass, perhaps even sacrilegious. How could I be watching a chick flick when my daughter and her family were adjusting to this news? The question shouted out at me as I pushed “Play.”



Then I heard the whisper of the Spirit. “You can’t do anything. I am with them. I am their God. Leave this to me. Enjoy the movie.”

Watching a chick flick became for me, that night, a way of letting go, almost a symbol of letting go of my need to control, understand, and fix. I was resting in God’s care, not so much for me as for my daughter and her family. I could pray, but I could not fix. The creator God was, and would be, present and loving my daughter, my son-in-law and their new baby.

That was over six years ago. Our granddaughter Eden is a sweet, charming little girl. I still, daily, trust God with the care of my children and my grandchildren. I don’t remember much about the movie I saw the night Eden was born, but I do remember that letting go, and letting God love me and love those I love is a very blessed experience.

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Has there been a time that you have felt helpless and heard the whisper of the Spirit in comfort? How did you respond?

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Alice Fryling:
frylingAlice Fryling is a spiritual director and author. Her most recent book is Seeking God Together: An Introduction to Group Spiritual Direction. She teaches Enneagram workshops in the Chicago area with her colleague Jessie Vicha. Alice and her husband Bob have two grown daughters and four grandchildren.
    • Robin

      Just yesterday, after a day of being overwhelmed by circumstances, I decided to watch a DVD. Please note, I am not one to watch DVDs very often so it was unusual for me to have such desire. As I watched the Lion, Witch, and Wardrobe;Chronicles of Narnia, God reminded me that He had all in control. He will give me all I need at the time I need it. With much tears,I knew that what I needed was to surrender everything to Him. I didn’t think much of last night’s actions,except I was feeling better, until I read your comment this morning. Thank you for sharing your story. How awesome is the God we serve !
      Today… another day to surrender “today” to Him.

      Blessings !

    • Pat Pope

      I have never been into chick flicks, but I do understand the need to do something to occupy one’s mind from other weighter matters.

      Right now, I’m in the season of aging parents with health issues. The other morning I remember just being real still and quiet as I lay in bed and praying giving all that I had on my plate to the Lord. I don’t live with my parents, although I’m only 20 minutes away. Still, with various needs it can be overwhelming but I realize that I have to trust God to take care of their every need because ultimately no one can take care of them like God can. And you know what, He does it each and every day. If I’m not there to take them food, He provides. The sun still rises and sets every day. They have a wonderful neighbor who takes care of their lawn. Also, since my parents aren’t invalids, if I’m not there to do everything for them every second of the day, it allows them to do some things for themselves, which is needful so that they don’t feel as though they’re losing their independence.

    • I remember many years ago I was helping someone that was very suicidal. I knew that in the afternoon I would have to probably call medical authorities to intervene. Pressure was on, I was feeling stretched and torn. Spirit whispered ‘Go to the movies’. I went not knowing what I was going to see. I arrived, went in and found the next available movie was ‘Miss Congeniality 2’. Hmm, not my first choice in great movies, but I went in, blobbed for the next couple of hours and was whisked away from the present to Sandra Bullock land.
      I had pushed pause in my life for a moment. I went into the afternoon with a sense of having a micro holiday. I was able to handle the afternoon pressures with new ability. Since then I have often listened to those whispers. Going to the movies, watching a DVD. A new Spiritual discipline to embrace thanks to Hollywood!